The 11 Signs Your Loved One or Spirit Guides Are Trying To Communicate With You

There is a time in everyone’s life when you just want desperately to speak to that important someone that has passed away. I often want to speak to my own mom who died at 58 far too young and wanted desperately for her to continue living. We each want one more conversation, one more hug or one more shared experience where we can tell them, “I love you mom.”

Soon after my mom passed, I started to have experiences. I always knew that I had something that I would call knowing things or could see things unfolding that others could not but never really thought much about it. Until I started to learn more about signs, synchronicities and spiritual development. I had many occurrences where my own mom would visit me. In three different houses the door would magically open as if someone was coming in though nobody was there. It happened so often that I would just start a whole conversation with her. That is one example of a sign of how spirits and loved ones can communicate with us.

I did not have experience with people in my life who have psychic abilities or experiences sensing things that I was aware of. The whole concept of having abilities was not something that was discussed much in my family. I later became aware that everyone has abilities. None of us are taught how to use our psychic abilities, which is very sad. It is a fact that we are all born with these abilities. Once we start in school, we are taught to use logic and reason and intuition is not taught.

You can develop your abilities to whatever extent you want to master them. My younger sister and I have been on a self-development journey all our lives because of our mother. She and I have taken classes and read books learning new skills and abilities that we never knew about or even heard about.

What I want you to do is entertain the possibilities that noticing signs might be possible for you. Set aside your analytical and logistical mind and just notice things that are occurring. If you want to understand this more, I invite you to keep a journal of what you are noticing. I want to spark in you the curiosity of your inner child to the possibilities of what spirit wants you to hear.

The 11 Signs Your Loved One or Spirit Guides Are Trying To Communicate With You

1. Dreams That Feel Different

Most everyone has heard about a visitation dream where a loved one who has passed on visits us to communicate with us. It is the one type of dream that most people expect to occur quickly after their loved one passes. The dream is a vivid dream in color where the person seems to be alive and with us as if they have not passed. Often, they visit us to let us know they love us and are okay. These dreams are usually different dreams where things occur, and your subconscious mind is sorting out things going on in your life. The visitation dream feels unusually clear, peaceful, memorable, and emotionally powerful. These dreams usually stick with you instead of an ordinary dream that fades away on waking.

2. Familiar Scents With No Obvious Source

I often get the smell of cigarette smoke in my bedroom. Nobody in my house smokes and neither do any of the neighbors. This smell is attached to an older gentleman. It comes into my room in the middle of the night usually with a pocket of cold air that hovers over me. I feel and smell this visitor. It goes away after a few minutes, but it usually concentrates near my bed like someone is coming to say hello.

Spirits can materialize with a cigarette, a pipe, or cigar smoke or even perfume, cologne or food smells. Smells are one way our loved ones materialize. So, notice if this comes up write down the dates and times until you discover the meaning. Any strong scent strongly associated with the person including food scents that may suddenly appear and dissipate just as quickly over time.

3. Songs at Remarkably Meaningful Moments

A loved one's favorite song, a song connected with a memory, or lyrics that seem uncannily appropriate may play just when the reader is thinking about them. Recently, I received a sign of hope through a song that was played on my radio station. It was a song that I love and came on when I was having a very down moment. It immediately lifted my spirits to have hope because the circumstance would pass soon. Notice when a meaningful song comes on. Write down why it was memorable and what you think the message is for you. Often times you are the best person to understand the meaning of the message to you. Whatever first comes in your head is usually the right message for you.

4. Birds, Butterflies, Dragonflies, or Other Animals

Insects and animals can often be influenced by spirits. I have had several experiences with birds, butterflies and dragonflies that were spiritual in nature. There is a connection with all living things. Not every encounter with an animal is spiritual but you certainly will know when it occurs because of how you felt. I was at a funeral and saw a white butterfly circle the head of the spouse burying his wife. I knew she was there with us.

Another important thing to note is that you can ask for these signs to appear as well. I am still amazed at what occurs when it occurs after I have asked for a sign. I ask and then write it down and let it go. I then record the date and time when I receive the sign as my way of noticing my wish fulfillment.

5. Finding Coins, Feathers, or Small Meaningful Objects

Coins, feathers and other objects are another sign that can appear repeatedly or in places where their timing feels significant, especially when the object has a personal association with the loved one. I have asked for this sign many times and have been humbled to have it occur so quickly after asking for the sign. Sometimes the items are calling to you to notice and pick them up. Do not overlook the significance of these events. If it is appearing to you, there is a reason, pick it up and give thanks for your sign.

6. Electrical or Technological Oddities

This one is one that is hard to believe. You are having a normal evening and a light flickers for no reason. You check the switch, the bulb and there is no problem and then it happens again. Often there may be a normal explanation for lights that flicker, televisions turning on or music playing unexpectedly like a loose plug. You should be aware that spirits can interact with electronics. They can drain fully charged batteries. Spirits exist and communicate through energy. Spirits can interact with electricity or battery-operated devices through using their energy. They can cause interference or can turn appliances on or off using their energy. If this happens, notice it, write it down and see if it recurs. Normal investigation should be done to see if a bulb is loose, or damaged or if the device has any other issues to eliminate normal sources of these occurrences.

7. Feeling Their Presence

This one can be hard to explain to other people. You feel certain that someone is there even though no one is in the room with you and you cannot see or hear them. Their presence is just felt. This sensation can make the hair on your arm stand up. You get sudden warmth or chill feeling in the room with no physical reasons for it. It can be unnerving at first because it is what you feel only not what you see or hear. Sometimes you can see abnormal things occurring at the same time also.

8. Repeating Numbers and Significant Dates

Our loved ones are around us. They know all our important birthdays, anniversaries, meaningful dates in our lives. Spirit uses different kinds of signs to get our attention. One sign used to get our attention is to get us to notice repeating numbers like 11:11, 1:11, 2:22 or other patterns of repeating numbers. You are not aware of the time coming up but you unexpectedly notice it during your day. You are not watching the clock, but you look up and there it is a repeating number sequence. The importance of that number is what it means to you when it is occurring. The message is in what was occurring for you at that moment. They want you to stop and notice what is occurring at that moment. Whatever first comes into your mind is usually what they are trying to get you to notice. If your loved one gets you to notice this, it might occur more often because this method was successful in getting through to you. You have tuned into their frequency which they will now use to communicate with you. Just like you tune a radio dial into a channel. One thing to do is to notice when it happens, what was happening when it happened and write down immediately what you think it means even if you feel uncertain about all of it.

9. Thoughts or Memories That Arrive Suddenly

I was listening to a radio program, and they announced an event occurring 45 days away on my mother’s birthday. What are the chances that I would be listening to the radio and hearing about an event that is insignificant to me on my mother’s birthday.

It could be a memory flooding back, a stranger with your loved one’s first name that you will never see again. It could be a phrase the loved one used to say, a joke or an image of the person may appear unexpectedly and with unusual intensity. The timing of this event is sometimes precise when comfort or guidance is needed. They are around you but are using any method possible to get your attention. Note down the occurrence with the date and the time and what you felt occurred at this time. Over the course of time your events begin to show you that these happen frequently enough for you to now trust and believe in their significance.

10. Objects Moving or Appearing in Unexpected Places

When we decorate a room, we have a place for an object to be placed. We usually do not go through and move the objects very often. Until one day you look and the item you are expecting to see like a photograph, a keepsake, a piece of jewelry, or another meaningful object may unexpectedly fall, be moved, or turn up after being missing altogether. No one has access to your room or claims to have moved your item, but it is not there. Later you come back and the item is back with no explanation. Spirits will use their energy to move objects. They are looking for any sign that you will notice to communicate with you. Although they have lost their physical body and voice, they have other ways like this to get your attention.

11. Synchronicities That Feel Too Personal to Ignore

Spirits will use any method possible to get your attention. One day I was in a hurry to get to my son’s house. He was traveling and thought he had left something on in his backyard. He called and asked me to go over to his house and check it. So, I grabbed my purse and keys and left my house. I randomly thought, “is my car insurance card in the car?” Why did this thought come into my head right now? It was so random in my head. I know spirits speak to me, so I listen and usually then figure out the reason. My experience tells me that random is not random. I paused and looked for the card for whatever reason is that I am meant to find this card. I proudly display it and speak to myself “see I have it!” I now listen to the intuition and do what I am asked to do although it is easy to dismiss these random thoughts. I found the card and proceeded on my journey. The delay was just long enough to keep me from being at the traffic light when a driver coming the other direction failed to stop and hit the man a few cars in front of me. Sometimes it feels silly to do what you are asked to do but we just do not know what we are being protected from.

This is not the only example of synchronicities that can occur. They can be any combination of events: thinking of someone, hearing their song, seeing their birthday number, and encountering another personal symbol within a short period or meeting someone by their same name introducing themselves to you. When these events happen in clusters of coincidences it is often thought to be more significant than isolated events. The old saying “heed the signs” is meaningful here. Spirits often cannot vocalize sounds so they will use other methods to get your attention.

How Do You Know Whether Something Is a Sign?

Here are some questions and a simple framework to use:

• Is it personally meaningful to you?
• Did it happen at an unusual or emotionally significant time?
• Has the symbol or experience repeated?
• Did following the advice stop something happening to you that otherwise would have happened?
• Did you immediately think of your loved one?
• Did the experience bring comfort, recognition, or a sense of connection?
• Were you at a place and time where hearing from them was what would help you get through something significant in your life?

You do not need to force meaning onto each coincidence. The meaning is there or it is not. You should write it down because you might not instantly see the meaning but might see it looking back later.

A Simple Way to Start Noticing Signs

I recommend that you keep a small Signs Journal. Record the date, what happened, what you were thinking about beforehand, what happened after, how the experience felt, and any repeated symbols, synchronicities or events.

Over time, patterns may become easier to recognize.

Closing Message

Losing someone you love can be very difficult. Although the loved one cannot speak to you like they had before they passed, they can communicate with you. Their passing marks the end of one type of relationship communication and the beginning of a new type of communication. Your love and memories are your powerful connection to them and they know this. Remain curious and be open to what is happening around you. Stay grounded and experience what might occur next that could be meaningful to you and your loved one. Over time if you notice and record the events that are occurring you might have the meaningful events recorded so that you can trust and believe in the signs that are being revealed to you.

Sometimes the most meaningful signs aren't the loudest ones. They're the ones that make you stop for a moment and quietly think, "That was you, wasn't it?"

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Gentle Disclaimer

Interpretations of events occurring are personal and subjective. This article is intended for spiritual reflection and education and is not a substitute for professional grief, mental health, medical, legal, or other qualified support.